There is an inner conflict in my head. My logical, determined, focused side wars with my lazy, comfort-seeking side. Sometimes the lazy side wins...well, to be honest it wins a lot...but it never makes me feel good when it does.
Here’s an example of what happens. My logical side says I need to exercise. My lazy side comes up with ten reasons why I can’t do it right then. And they are all good reasons because my brain thought them up. So my logical side backs off and I don’t exercise. But here’s what I discovered. The logical side isn’t me, the lazy side isn’t me, I am the person in the middle, and I control both of those aspects of my personality. I know that sounds a little “duh”, but looking at it that way mades you realize that you are in charge of your life. The trick is not to let the lazy, arrogant, fearful, or whatever aspect of your personality that is holding you back, override the whole of you.
I call it “getting on my own side”. It means kicking out the noises in your head that lead you away from meeting your goals. So, using my exercise example: I look at my goal (to lose five pounds and increase my muscle strength and flexibility) and I look at the things I must do to achieve that goal, (good nutrition, cardio, strength training and yoga). Then anything that gets in the way of that gets banished. When I’m on my own side, my logical side and I are in complete harmony. The lazy side doesn’t have a chance because I stop giving it power.
You may have already experienced this. Have you ever tried and tried to reach a goal without success and then suddenly the planets aligned and you sailed smoothly toward your goal? If so, you probably “got on your own side”. It’s a subtle shift in thinking, but it’s very powerful. If you need help finding that shift, give me a call, I’d love to help.
